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  Careful   Don't let what they want eclipse what you need, they can be very dreamy but they're not the sun, you are.  This blog begins with the word careful and a little quote I heard a long time ago. Allow me to explain myself, why careful? It's an advice to all those who just like me, whenever they love someone, they allow theirselves to sum up their whole life to the person you love.  I mean yeah, love is crucial in our lives but love does not resume to one person and one person only, believe me or not there's far beyond one important person in our lives, even when it looks like it plays the main role, we must be aware that the main role in the story is play by no one but us.  When you allow someone to eclipse yourself, you suddenly stop enjoying  life, why? because whenever they're not with you, you could feel like everything is useless, nothing but a lie playing with your head. You used to enjoy somethings before that someone came ...

  Changes   Life keeps going, just like the world keeps moving, maybe you're feeling like you're having one of the best days of your life and suddenly you're a down dum in the dumps, or the other way round, when you feel like everything is lost, something finally feels right or end up being just the way you wanted to. Anyways, none of the situations I previously mention remains the same, at least not forever. Lots of people could claim that some feelings never die, that's true but unfortunately life isn't just about feeling, is about moving on.  I used to wish that my happy days last forever until I understood how impossible my wish was, no matter how hard I tried, my days could never be all rose colour, because my days not only depend on me but on so many external factors, impossible for me to control.  The bright side is that no matter how bad you're feeling, even if you feel like it's the end of the world, believe me, nothing las...

  Good   Once someone told me that no matter how much I have been hurt, never stop being good and doing good, because even when it looks like doing good is for others, is for my own gain. I've felt it and I guess everyone has, doing good and being good for something or someone not worth it. Nevertheless, in the end we must be conscious that give talks more about who gave it than for the one to receive it. Whatever you give, if you give it from heart, you won't regret it, even if it wasn't deserve it.  No one would claim that being good and doing good feels good, and it comes back, it always does. Not always in the way we want or expect to but sometimes we don't even notice. Maybe you have a humongous peace or joy, see? it's kind of coming back to you. All joy, help and love you give, even when it looks as if it was given to others, you're kind of giving it to you too. We are all good in different ways, and being able to see good in people is a gift that not ever...

   Broken   We are all with no exceptions kind of broken, someway or another. The thing is, being broken is what makes us, because even broken we decide to stand up and continue, sometimes hoping one day that hole disappears. Life never gives more than you can take, there will always be reasons to continue fighting, to continue believing, even when most people have let us down.   Most of the times we have to repair in our selves what can be repair, what I mean is that there'll be those things and memories that will never be forgotten, but eventually they'll stop hurting us, haunting or even scaring us. One day something suddenly change, someone maybe step into our lives to remember us the good things and makes us believe in people again.  Or maybe you are your own hero, and realise that the only one with power enough to save you is you. I read a quote that we are all broken and that is the way in which light came in.  Being broken a...

  Grateful We are constantly too busy thinking about what's going to happen, that we forget to thank for what we have. Or too blinded by thinking about problems to see all people around us, doing things for us. We forget to say thanks once a while, and let me tell you that no matter how bad you think your life is right away, it could be worse. Everything could be worse, once I read that life give us fights, we are able to fight, never the other way round.  There are always reasons enough to be thankful, from the smallest to the biggest one.  When we stop focussing so much on what we want or worry and focus on how bless we are and all we've got, that's the moment when you attract what you think. It's not a law or anything but at least for me, it works, if I'm thinking how bless I am, all the gifts that life gives me, somehow I receive more and best, even when I can see it right in the moment, the time makes me realise that if something left was for the good, for ...

  Loyalty   An humongous quality, it is defined as a strong feeling of support or allegiance.  One can possibly be loyal in so many ways, loyal to your beliefs, mostly cause we are living in a world where it is needed to think alike others to fit in society, but while it is true that we do not have all the right answers, it is also true that leaving our thoughts behind to replace them all with others is disloyal to yourself. The world is such a big place, with space enough for all beliefs to fit, no one has the right to make you think different, besides pieces of advices are needed one a while. Be loyal to what encourage you to be better and do as well. Loyal to those who were loyal to you. It is no one's surprise if I tell you that not everyone deserves your loyalty cause there will be some who won't think it twice before betray it. Be careful to who are you loyal to. It takes time to contradistinguish who is worthy and who is not but the time will te...

  Relationships   No one said being in a relationship was easy, no matter if we're talking about a relation with friends, family or a couple. Let me tell you why a relationship is not easy, we all think different than the other. Besides, never mind you are kind of similar with your partner, you are still a whole different person.  The thing is that unfortunately, ego, pride and selfishness take the first place, even when we deny it. There's a huge dissimilarity between loving yourself and being way to pride. You can know what's your place and what you deserve, that's healthy and what most people should do. But when pride exceed you is when you're too busy thinking you're always right to see another point of view, to become a little emphatic with the other. It is for us to know that it is so easy for us to count faults with fingers but we have our too, we can claim how much we hate when others act someway but surely the other has its...

  Fortuity   As humans we are finding kinds, what do I mean by that? Well, we usually go through life searching for all kinds of things, material and non material. The thing is, life is funny that way, sometimes the best things come when you're not looking for them, when you least expect them. Life is besides sarcastic, ironic, you plan something to happen and in the end of the day it happen just a hole different thing.  Have you ever heard of those who look for a couple so desperately? Well, it's funny because they are the ones who normally find harder to find one. On the other hand there are those who don't give a dam about searching for someone but they focus their attention on other stuff and life somehow send someone to step into their lives. Of course, not all coincidences end up well, but what I am pretty sure about is that everyone who you get to know has a reason for doing so.  Moreover, I'll dare to say that from my experience the best people that...

 Strength  This world, full of challenges, issues, people trying to get you down, but yeah, amid all the crap there are few things really worth holding on to.  I can say that in this world, you'll get to know people who's nor happy enough with its own life so they go through life trying to sabotage others, in any kind of way, hurting the ones you love, your passion, ideals, way of thinking.  Remember that the ones who truly love you will for sure give you a piece of advice time to time when they feel like you need it, but they'd never try you to do its will over your life, good relationships start with respect when there's no respect, there's no love.  In order to get through this challenges you need to be physically, mentally and emotionally strong, you need to know your worth and steady where you are standing on the ground. Strong enough to know that no matter how bad things are, time heals all wounds and faith that one day the world r...

Can't get   It's no ones surprise if I tell you that usually what we want the most is what we can't get. It had happen to all of us, that you feel like you got everything you need and suddenly something you want, you can't get, what happens is that you get so obsessed with it that you forget about what really matters.  You fool yourself and costume it as love or even need but is nothing but whim.  Why does this happen? Searching for answers was particularly difficult to me because I was blinded by whim, when it ended, I was finally able to find the reason why I was so obsessed. We usually get obsessed with things we don't posses, lack in our lives of all kinds and when we find something like that or similar we do everything in our hands to get it, but maybe it's not the time for us to get it, maybe it's waiting for us in the future or maybe we don't even need it and that's why we don't get it. We get obsessed bec...

  Panic   We all react differently to pressure, pain, fear, beyond others. While some are use to run away from those feelings, those who avoid them to all costs, there are others who look mostly for an answer to solve. Panic, anger, and sadness make us vulnerable, have you heard once > he or she didn't meant that, it was anger? Well it's true, all those feelings besides making us vulnerable, make us impulsive, we say things we didn't mean and act in some way we would never in our normal state.  The thing that most people don't take into account is that everyone around us are not to blame for not understanding what's going on inside our heads, leave alone our lives. We are selfish enough to believe others should understand us when we barely know if they are going through a hard times as well, maybe even worse that ours. I'm not saying that you should hide your feelings, not at all but get to know yourself so you can control your temper. Panic, a...

 Get rid of We are keen on keeping things in our lives, material and non material stuff, stuff that doesn't work anymore or some other that could be replace for something better. My mom usually says, if you don't get rid of the old stuff, the new will never come in. True.  Cumulating non working stuff prevent us from seeing what really matters, it's kind of difficult to reach a point where you know you no longer what that stuff in your life, and this is the point where I make myself clear, it is not easy to get rid of people in our lives and when I say get rid, I don't mean like avoid them to all cost but to get away. Get away from family or people that we used to call friends because they no longer work for us and further that help us each other it becomes a load to heavy to carry.  The way I see it, life is already hard enough to make it even more surrounding ourselves with people that instead of giving us peace, they give wars. There's no need, you ...

  Fullness   One day you wake up and realise that you wouldn't change a thing, you realise that the journey was indeed hard but that you made it through and you are strong enough to survive what ever comes.  You realise that you weren't missing people or stuff, you were missing yourself. One day you find yourself dancing again, laughing like crazy, happy you know? 'Cause yeah life can hurt so bad once a while but I can assure that not pain nor sadness last forever. It had happen to all of us, feeling like dying even when we are literally don't, loosing peace and hope but I'll dare to say that in order to get fullness you first get to know lack, lack of joy, hope, peace beyond others. Nevertheless one day everything what was snatched from you comes back, at times not in the same way. Let me give you an example, someone you love so much leaves, of course at first it'll hurt but eventually you'll realise that it left for reason and that empty hole in you will b...

 The drop that spilled the glass  We fight, we fight so hard for achieve or get want we want and desire but sometimes no matter how hard we fight, we won't get it, just because call it life or destiny but that is just not meant for you. The thing is that the road until we finally get that we shouldn't keep trying is the hardest time. We fall and get up over and over again, ignoring everyone around trying to tell us that it's enough. I guess only deep inside of us something tell you when you're done trying.  They say we don't kick the habit till you hit rock bottom. Till one day you wake up with a new propose, willing to let go of whatever you were chasing. Trying and not giving up is okay but we all know when to stop and the more you try to convince yourself to keep trying the more you keep hurting yourself.  I read that when you have to run after something, it means it doesn't want be caught. Now, I get it and even though I don't regret...

  Someone We all need someone, company and talks. We all need someone to step in our life and let us know that everything it's all right, someone who doesn't let us down. I'll call it a safe place, where you know you'd always run whenever things are wrong, and nothing makes sense. Not everyone can be your safe place, because unfortunately people usually let us down, but everyone has a someone, someone you know no matter what happen he or she won't slip away. Some one who stays in hell and heaven. I know it's hard to find someone like that, and if you already did, take care of them, the world is not full of them.  Those are the ones who take you back to life when you feel like drowning, I believe we all need one in our life, being alone and waiting to figure out everything on your own it's okay. But we all need company and advice at least once a while. I thank everyday for having found someone like that, and know that as everyday goes, she keeps reminding me ...

  Secrets   We all have, all kind, big and small ones, secrets are secret for some reason most of the time avoiding hurting others, shame, guilt beyond others. The thing about secrets is that there's always a small chance for everything to come to light, and when it does, not always ends up well. I mean secrets are fine, as long as you know what you should and shouldn't keep from others, there are some secrets that the longer you keep them, the more you hurt others.  Your own secrets the ones that doesn't involve anyone but you, those are value, let me tell you why, because there are some stuff that you don't tell and probably shouldn't, at least not to anyone but just those few who you trust with your life, not everyone gets to know the deepest part of you because not everyone deserves it, there's nothing interest in something that it is already completely known, that is what makes us all special that we don't know everything about others, at times not even...

 Everyone and its own judgement  It is true, we are nothing but critics when it comes to others life, it's easy you know? judging and giving our opinion even when it has not been asked. How can we? I mean how could anyone judge another when no one and I can assure, no one is perfect. Even worse sometimes we judge when we also made those mistakes and thanks to them, we learned. I read one quote once, you can not judge past mistakes with actual consciousness. Mistakes is what makes us. Not how we make mistakes but how we repair what we broke.  The thing here is that we have no right to give our opinion about others when it's not asked. Besides, we have to learn not care because it's kind of inevitable, people talk, they always do, no matter if you succeed or fail, you can not, and remember this, you won't ever be able to make everyone happy but yourself. Be happy about your choices, decisions, mistakes and actions at the end of the day if you try to please everyon...

  Answers   I can assure you, there's no one in this universe who has all the answers, let alone the solutions.  Too little do we know about everything, about why people act the way they do, why things happen the way they do. We often guess or assume, but certainly we don't know. I've said before that sometimes not knowing it's okay. Moreover, no one would deny that needing a solution and being unable to get it, can be a pain in the ass sometimes. One thing I do know is that things always happen for some reason, even when we are not wise enough to see it. Besides, answers always arrive on time, that does not mean that they'll arrive when you want them to but when they're supposed to. As humans we learn, everyday, once a while we don't even notice but we do, all the time. I believe that is the main reason of why we don't know everything, the reason why we have neither the solution to all our troubles nor the answers to all our questions. To learn, ...

Too personal  All the time people do and say lots of things before thinking it twice, most of the times they don't stop to think if they could hurt someones feelings besides a bad impact in others lives. Imagine living everyday waiting for people to tell us what we expect to hear, putting all our happiness on others hands, what an insane thing to do and I'm pretty sure, we could never be completely happy that way, our joy always under others actions. Being sentimental, that's perfectly fine but I've know people who can get so influenced by others attitude with them, leaving them crying in bed. I mean I don't judge but it's anything but okay to allow others to have so much power on us that way. It's like you ruin your whole day just because someone told you a bad comment or act in some way and disappointed you. Don't make such a big deal out of nothing, if they don't care, why should you? The great secret for disappointment and great days from this bl...

Where you both win and lose everything Several times I have wonder, why we hold on so tight to those who let us go so easily, why giving everything for someone who gives nothing, I guess the answer is very simple after all, love. That would be the only point where you give everything and expect nothing in return.  Unfortunately, and I say unfortunately because what I'll say next can  end hurting us so bad, but that is just the way it works. In love there is no pride and if they have acts of pride there's no love, the pride derived from egocentrism is the first thing lost when you love someone.  Losing pride can sound like losing dignity or something but it is quite different, losing pride means you vs your ego, fighting to know if you should or shouldn't do something, about caring or not. The topic of this blog is quite clear and everyone who has been in love can clearly agree with me. W hen you fall for someone you win, in uncountable ways, a partner, frie...