Where you both win and lose everything
Several times I have wonder, why we hold on so tight to those who let us go so easily, why giving everything for someone who gives nothing, I guess the answer is very simple after all, love. That would be the only point where you give everything and expect nothing in return.
Unfortunately, and I say unfortunately because what I'll say next can end hurting us so bad, but that is just the way it works. In love there is no pride and if they have acts of pride there's no love, the pride derived from egocentrism is the first thing lost when you love someone.
Losing pride can sound like losing dignity or something but it is quite different, losing pride means you vs your ego, fighting to know if you should or shouldn't do something, about caring or not. The topic of this blog is quite clear and everyone who has been in love can clearly agree with me. When you fall for someone you win, in uncountable ways, a partner, friend, a reason, but you also lose and most of the times feelings go from happiness to sadness. It is important to say that love is not sadness at all, it becomes like it when people we love doesn't love us back or when both parties complicate their existence when it comes to love.
Complicated should be another description added to human beings meaning, no matter how much people deny it, we are complicated, we complicated our selfs in so many ways, we feel something and instead of speaking it out loud, we challenge others to guess, we have an issue and instead of asking for help, we wait until the load is too heavy for us to carry alone. Again, how complicated humans can be.
Taking up what I was saying we give each and every piece of us when we fall in love and what's even more dangerous, we don't choose who to fall in love with, sometimes you just find someone and suddenly you're willing to give everything from you no matter the cost. The thing is that once a while no matter how much you love them, they just can't love you back in the same way and being with someone that can't love you back makes you feel more alone than actually being alone.
Summarising, yeah, in love we lose and win. Moreover it should be perfectly balanced, I would even dare to say a little bit more inclined to the win part but balanced. Loving someone shouldn't mean losing every part of you and getting nothing in return, you can feel like it but when infatuation ends you realised that continue giving to someone who gives nothing about you is not love anymore, it leaves you empty with nothing more to offer.
No one can ever tell you when stop loving someone because I guess you never stop doing it, you replace it with self love, aware that no matter how much you love them, you love yourself even more, hard enough to know that you deserve to be loved as much as you love, not in the same way we expect, remembering that we all love in different ways but loved hardly and strongly. When you feel like you love someone more than they love you, it can drive you a little crazy.
Love, always wins in the end, but only when there's enough love to fight for.
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